Leave Kevin Alone

I can’t believe I’m about to do this, but I’m on the verge of putting on some thick black eyeliner and sobbing while proclaiming, “Just leave him alone” [ala Chris Crocker]. I should cut my tongue out with a dull pair of scissors for saying this (or I guess my fingers for typing this), but I’m so sick of hearing about what a deadbeat dad K-Fed is. There I said. So sue me.

Yeah, he wasn’t the greatest husband. He did leave his pregnant girlfriend to go out with Britney. And he did a little more partying than parenting during their marriage. And maybe he married Britney for her money. Heck I don’t know. I don’t know the guy. But Britney did get married twice in that same year. Surely she should take on some of the blame for that failed marriage. I don’t think any of us where surprised when it ended. Heck, Justin Timberlake even wrote a couple song about it…Cry Me a River and What goes around comes back around. That can’t be just a coincidence.

But now that Britney has jumped off the deep end without swimming lessons or even a life jacket, he’s stepping up. And I seriously doubt he’s just doing it for the money. I’m sure he’s doing it because he loves his children and is worried about their safety. And maybe some more money (as a secondary reason). But he’s had sole custody now for several months and hasn’t asked for more child support (as far as we know). And he isn’t fighting for custody of his first two kids because their mother is sane and a good caretaker.

So he’s having Britney pay his lawyer. Do you know how many husbands pay for their ex-wives lawyers. It’s pretty common when the guy was the breadwinner and the wife was a stay-at-home mom. This is the same thing. Britney makes at least 100 times more than Kevin. So, by law, she is required to pay support to Kevin so he can give their children the lifestyle they are accustomed to just as their mother does. He gets a small fraction of the amount of money she brings in in a single month. And she’s not doing a whole helluva lot to earn that money these days. Unless you call driving around town, visiting gas stations and fast food joints and spending the night in hotels, work.

Kevin wasn’t unemployed before he met Britney. He wasn’t as rich and famous as she was, but he was paying his bills while trying to live his dream of dancing and fame. And he’s not unemployed now. Just because he doesn’t work a regular nine to five job, five days a week doesn’t mean he isn’t bringing in income. He gets paid for guest appearance, hosting parties (I know I think it’s weird that people pay him for that too, but they do) and acting.

Now that he has custody, we don’t see him gallivanting around town, partying with his friends every single night. No, he’s home with his kids. And he’s not parading the kids all over town to get his picture in the latest rag. Instead he’s blocking the paparazzi so they can’t get pictures of kids.

As much as it pains me to say this (because God knows Kevin is no saint of fatherhood), Kevin is the better parent right now. And I’m so tired of hearing people talk about what a horrible guy he is and blaming him for Britney’s problems. She’s a grown woman. It’s time for her to take responsibility for herself for a change.

That’s not to say I don’t have some sympathy for Britney. She obviously has some demons she needs to get under control. And as somebody who deals with her own mental issues (hello OCD, my old friend), I can feel her pain. I hope she can get herself together. I hope she starts taking better care of herself; exercising, eating healthier and getting some damn sleep. And most of all, I hope she figures out exactly what those demons are and finds a cure. She likely needs medication and she needs to stay on it. Cause her kids need her. They need her to be healthy. And they need her to be their mom.

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