Should a woman be able to use fertility treatments to get pregnant if she already has kids?
How would I ever come up with ideas to blog about if it wasn’t for Parenting magazines “Mom Debate” column? In this month’s issue mom’s were asked the following question:
Should a woman be able to use fertility treatments to get pregnant if she already has kids?
Julia Schuck from Rolla, MO took the words right out of my mouth with her comment.
Are you kidding me? Should a woman be able to have sex to get pregnant even if she already has kids? There’s no difference.
But 20% of the parents polled disagreed. Including Shayla Casey from Dade City, FL who blew me away with her comment.
If you already have kids then maybe there’s a reason God didn’t you want you to have more.
Why does somebody always have to throw in the God card. I know some fabulous women who are fantastic mothers and had fertility problems the second time around. What exactly did they do to deserve that when crack whores can continue to pop out addicted baby after addicted baby? Where is God in those case?
Fertility treatments are expensive, time consuming and evasive. Women spend a lot of time, money and pain trying to get pregnant using fertility treatments. It’s not something they go in to lightly. It’s something they have through long and hard about. It’s something they want with the very core of their sole. And why should they be denied that option?
Lee and I have five children. Some people (including me some days) think that’s a lot of kids. We didn’t have to use fertility drugs. We had all our babies the old fashioned way. I couldn’t imagine not having all five of them driving me crazy, er, I mean in my life every day. That was our decision to have a big family and to share our lives with these great kids. And I’d be pretty pissed if somebody tried to cock block us because we already have kids.
Having kids is a very personal issue for each couple to decide upon on their own. It’s not something others need to be involved in (although I know there are tons of people who just love to give their opinion about it). Nor is it anything for the government to get involved in.
So, hell yes women should be allowed to use fertility treatments even if they already have children. It’s their right to decide how to grow their family.
in spite of the fact that i managed to successfully contribute to the over-population world i will share with you that my husband and i struggled with secondary infertility. we went through treatments after the birth of our first child and the stillbirth of our twin girls. oh yes, some people actually would question why we would go through fertility workups when we should just be happy and count our blessings with the one we had. that was 18 years ago and i still to this day shake my head in disbelief over such comments. perhaps they are meant to be encouraging or helpful but trust me all they do is cut even deeper a painful, gaping wound.
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With two nieces who have struggled with fertility, I can’t believe this is even an issue. Whose business is it how you have your children - or how many children you have? Get a life!
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Amen Sister. I think that if you want to have more children and you need assistance, then go for it.
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Wow. I hate when people throw out the God card in situations like that as well. No one should be able to tell you what to do with your body especially when it involves having children. People are idiots sometimes.
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I too can’t believe this is even an issue…
Well said!
I’ve heard similar debates about whether single women should be allowed access to fertility treatments.
Puh-leaze.
Julie @ the calm before the stork’s last blog post..huh.