Alert the media, there’s a boy in blue nail polish
I am not a football fan by any sense of the word. I tolerate the noise of football in the background while I’m doing homework on Sundays, but that’s about as far as I go. But I have heard of Brian Urlacher. However, until I read an article on him recently, I couldn’t even tell you who he played for (which is apparently the Bears).
But then I came across an article about his custody case. Screw football. I’m all about he gossip.
Apparently his the mother of his 3-year-old child is threatening to deny Urlacher his visitation with his son because he put the kid in pink Cinderella pull-ups and painted the kid’s toenails blue. Seriously?!? How is a judge even willing to hear this case? How is her lawyer able to show her face in court with this as a defense?
First, it’s not harming the child to wear pink pull-ups even though he’s a boy. Maybe Urlacher accidentaly picked up the wrong kind when he ran out to the store. Or maybe they were visiting a friend and realizing he had run out of pull-ups borrowed one from the friend who has a girl. Wearing a pink pull-up is not going to turn the kid gay or make him a sissy or whatever the hell this crazy Tyna woman thinks. She says it confuses the boy. The boy is 3-years-old. You know what’s confusing him? His mother making a big deal out of something that covers his butt and catches his poop.
Second, the nail polish was blue. The article claims it was Bears-blue. What’s wrong with that? It sounds like team spirit to me. Many male rockstars paint their nails (although it’s usually black). It doesn’t make them any less of a man. I’ve painted my boys’ nails before. When they are toddlers and they see you painting your nails they want to do it too. The article made mention of Urlacher’s girlfriend. Maybe she was painting her nails and the child wanted to copy her. Who knows. But it certainly isn’t a reason to keep a child from his father.
Third, is it in the child’s best interest to have his business all over the national news? Who’s hurting the child more? The parent who put him in a pink pull-up that’s covered by clothes because that’s all he had at the time and painted his nails for fun? Or the parent who spouts her bullshit to the press?
Finally, it disturbs me that so many people make such a big deal about these gender stereotypes. A child of this age does not yet understand these stereotypes so why not just let him explore whatever he wants to explore. As long as he’s not playing with knives, he’s fine. Stop taking their innocence away and just let the child be.
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Deena Said,
November 30, 2008 @ 6:46 am
My sister and I have an on-going debate about this! My nephew is the only boy with 5 girls, between his cousins and sisters. He is banned from all things “girly”. Poor kid doesn’t want to be a girl – just wants the same personal attention the girls get when we do their nails.
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Mominator Said,
November 30, 2008 @ 8:25 pm
My son is 6. When we go to my mom’s house for the weekend she has one of those portable foot spas. So my mom, my 5 year old daughter and myself usually wind up playing “Spa” and giving each other manicures and doing our toes and giving each other shoulder rubs while the other waits their turn. 9 times out of 10 he wants to be right there giving/getting a shoulder massage and wants a pedicure because he loves how his feet feel soaking and loves the attention we are all giving each other. She is WAY overeacting!
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Christine Said,
November 30, 2008 @ 9:54 pm
I forgot to add…I have boy/girl twins. I cannot tell you how many times my daughter had on boy diapers (or swim diapers) and how many times my son had on girl diapers. When we ran out of one we threw on whatever we had. And today my daughter is very girly (which is shocking since she has four brothers) and my son is all boy. So, shockingly (and I mean that sarcastically) the other gender diaper had no effect on them whatsoever. You know why? Because we never made a big deal out of it and nobody gave two squats of shit about it.
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Heather Rupp Said,
December 1, 2008 @ 8:50 am
FYI, this same crazy woman who is the mother of Urlacher’s son also claimed that child support in the amount of $5,000/month was not enough! She has issues.
cindy Said,
December 1, 2008 @ 9:08 am
Ok, so I had to comment on this one..
My son is 10 and has been raised with his Mom, Sister and Grandma. No boys, ever! He hates it and his testosterone is totally raging. Anyway, a few months back, I received a call from the school. The conversation went something like this.
School… “This is blah, I wondered if you knew that Damons nails are painted?”
Me… Yes, he painted them this weekend with his sister while i was at work
School… Well we don’t think its appropriate for boys and we need you to remove it.
Me..Oh I don’t care and he doesn’t either, so it’s not a problem.
School… well, we just don’t think its appropriate, we don’t want kids to make fun of him.
Me… I told him Sunday night that he would get teased at school and called a girl, he said he didn’t care. so its ok really.
School… Well not here at the elementary. When he turns 18 that will be between you and him.
Me.. ( thinking, omg did she really just say that? And steadily getting pissed) If it means that much to you, I will get it off. I don’t have polish remover but i’ll pick up some in the next few days
School…… oh well uh, do you mind if i take it off here at the school?
Me…. if you have polish remover there, go for it.
School…. I’ll make sure I have some here tomorrow. Thanks for understanding.
Me… also i have been meaning to get ahold of you. Damon didn’t get his homework done last week because I had to work over. He doesn’t understand it to get it done on his own.
school… yeah I noticed he hadn’t done his homework. He spent recess with me in the office all last week.
Where the HELL was my phone call about that!!!!
Stephanie Said,
December 1, 2008 @ 6:14 pm
Seriously. I hope the judge in that case reprimands her–and sanctions her strongly–for something that ridiculous. If she didn’t want Urlacher to make decisions regarding the child SHE HAD WITH HIM (that do not in any way affect his personal safety like, say, spreading his information all over the national news might), then she should have kept her legs closed.
Just my two cents.
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