Comments on: Dads are good parents too http://www.thebeanblog.com/2009/06/01/dads-are-good-parents-too/ Trying to stay sane while parenting five kids, working full-time and going college part-time. Wed, 10 Mar 2010 06:40:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Christine http://www.thebeanblog.com/2009/06/01/dads-are-good-parents-too/comment-page-1/#comment-61175 Christine Fri, 19 Jun 2009 20:25:40 +0000 http://www.thebeanblog.com/?p=2046#comment-61175 Leme - A response to your comment would be very long for the comments section so I will respond via a blog post. Leme – A response to your comment would be very long for the comments section so I will respond via a blog post.

]]> By: Leme http://www.thebeanblog.com/2009/06/01/dads-are-good-parents-too/comment-page-1/#comment-61166 Leme Thu, 18 Jun 2009 08:14:48 +0000 http://www.thebeanblog.com/?p=2046#comment-61166 I would sincerely like to know why it is wrong to criticize men for staying home and not having a career, when we have been criticizing women who stay at home, for the past 40 years? Ever since Betty Friedan's book The Feminine Mystique, we have been told that it is absolutely essential for women to have careers because staying at home would leave them depressed and unfulfilled. Also women have been told that staying at home puts them in the position of being dependent on their husbands and therefore unequal and unprepared to support themselves in the event of their husband leaving them due to divorce or death. Do you also respond with anger when you hear stay at home moms ridiculed and put-down and told that they should have careers instead of being at home? Do you also object when young women are told that they should be certain to get a good education so they can have a career and support themselves and not be dependent on a man? Why is it wrong to tell a man he shouldnt be dependent on a woman, but not equally wrong to tell a woman she shouldn't be dependent on a man but should instead have her own income? You object to people saying your husband should get a job. Why do you object to that? Isn't that exactly what we've been telling women for the past 40 years? You object to people saying your husband shouldn't be dependent on you? Why do you object to that? Isn't that the exact same thing we've been telling women? Your marriage has gotten stronger because your husband stays home? And if a man said his marriage is stronger because his wife stays home, feminists would want to lynch him. It makes for a stronger marriage when one partner is financially dependent on the other? Good, then lets tell the feminists that they are completely wrong to call for equality in marriage! If you think that staying home is so wonderful I'm sure that you will encourage your daughter and all other young women to avoid careers and be a full time stay at home parent because that's the way to have a strong marriage and "really bond" with your kids, won't you? Yeah right! Again, please tell me why it is wrong to condemn men who stay at home, while it's not wrong to condemn women who stay at home and tell them they should have careers instead? I would sincerely like to know why it is wrong to criticize men for staying home and not having a career, when we have been criticizing women who stay at home, for the past 40 years? Ever since Betty Friedan’s book The Feminine Mystique, we have been told that it is absolutely essential for women to have careers because staying at home would leave them depressed and unfulfilled. Also women have been told that staying at home puts them in the position of being dependent on their husbands and therefore unequal and unprepared to support themselves in the event of their husband leaving them due to divorce or death.

Do you also respond with anger when you hear stay at home moms ridiculed and put-down and told that they should have careers instead of being at home? Do you also object when young women are told that they should be certain to get a good education so they can have a career and support themselves and not be dependent on a man? Why is it wrong to tell a man he shouldnt be dependent on a woman, but not equally wrong to tell a woman she shouldn’t be dependent on a man but should instead have her own income? You object to people saying your husband should get a job. Why do you object to that? Isn’t that exactly what we’ve been telling women for the past 40 years? You object to people saying your husband shouldn’t be dependent on you? Why do you object to that? Isn’t that the exact same thing we’ve been telling women?

Your marriage has gotten stronger because your husband stays home? And if a man said his marriage is stronger because his wife stays home, feminists would want to lynch him. It makes for a stronger marriage when one partner is financially dependent on the other? Good, then lets tell the feminists that they are completely wrong to call for equality in marriage! If you think that staying home is so wonderful I’m sure that you will encourage your daughter and all other young women to avoid careers and be a full time stay at home parent because that’s the way to have a strong marriage and “really bond” with your kids, won’t you? Yeah right! Again, please tell me why it is wrong to condemn men who stay at home, while it’s not wrong to condemn women who stay at home and tell them they should have careers instead?

]]> By: KiwiLog http://www.thebeanblog.com/2009/06/01/dads-are-good-parents-too/comment-page-1/#comment-61119 KiwiLog Mon, 08 Jun 2009 20:20:33 +0000 http://www.thebeanblog.com/?p=2046#comment-61119 Hi! We really loved your post over at KiwiLog, and decided to feature it as part of our weekly mom blog round-up post. Keep doing what you're doing! Hi! We really loved your post over at KiwiLog, and decided to feature it as part of our weekly mom blog round-up post. Keep doing what you’re doing!

]]> By: Wendy (An Iowa Mom) http://www.thebeanblog.com/2009/06/01/dads-are-good-parents-too/comment-page-1/#comment-61097 Wendy (An Iowa Mom) Wed, 03 Jun 2009 15:47:28 +0000 http://www.thebeanblog.com/?p=2046#comment-61097 I'm with ya. Big Daddy doesn't stay home, I do, but he is still just as involved. And I expect him to be. Every ball practice ... he's there. Ball game ... there. Wax Museum ... there. Track and Field Day ... there. School programs ... there. Backyard playing ... there. Neighborhood walk ... there. Hanging out watching TV ... there. Kid just needing someone to talk to ... there. A father should be there. For all those great moments ... big and small. Regardless. I would be one unhappy mama if he wasn't. I’m with ya. Big Daddy doesn’t stay home, I do, but he is still just as involved. And I expect him to be.

Every ball practice … he’s there. Ball game … there. Wax Museum … there. Track and Field Day … there. School programs … there. Backyard playing … there. Neighborhood walk … there. Hanging out watching TV … there. Kid just needing someone to talk to … there.

A father should be there. For all those great moments … big and small. Regardless. I would be one unhappy mama if he wasn’t.

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