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Sibling Rivalry; the twin edition

Nov 7, 2009 The wonderful world of tweens, Twice as nice

Ever since I can remember I dreamed about growing up and having twins. My great-grandmother was a twin. She was Ruby and her twin sister was Ruth. I think I had heard that twins run in families so since my Bubby was a twin, of course, I would have twins too.

When I was just a child, like many little girls, I imagined my adult self married with babies; my twin babies. They would be two girls and I was going to name them Hannah and Hailey.

So when I was 25, pregnant, sick as a dog and my doctor wanted to do an ultrasound to “rule out the possibility of twins” I knew exactly how the ultrasound would turn out. I set up my ultrasound appointment and went straight to the book store to buy a book on being pregnant with twins. I was that confident.

The day we had our ultrasound Lee and I looked up at the monitor as the ultrasound tech said, “Well here’s why you’re so nauseous. You’re having twins.” Lee nearly fell out of his chair. But I wasn’t shocked at all. I was excited.

However, I completely underestimated the double tween and teen angst that comes with twins.

Skyler & Spencer couldn’t be more different starting with that fact that Skyler is a girl and Spencer is a boy (no Hannah and Hailey which was fine with me because after 20 years I was sick and tired of those name). Skyler is very social (an extrovert all the way). Spencer is pretty quiet (an introvert like his mom).

At the Sock Hop last night Skyler was hollering out to everybody, waving and fluttering around like her usual social butterfly self. One boy in their class, Joseph, walked by Spencer and Skyler yelled out “Hi Joseph!”

But he didn’t hear her so Spencer turned around and said, “Joseph, Skyler wants you.” Joseph took this to mean that Skyler wanted his hot 4th grade bod and seemed a bit stunned.

Spencer said, “NOOO. She just wants to talk to you.”

Joseph said, “Oh” and walked over to Skyler so she could say Hi to him.

As Joseph walked away Spencer said, “Skyler you know all the boys in our class think you’re annoying.”

I looked over and Skyler to gage how she was going to take this news. Sometimes she’s just blows off her brother. And other times she gets upset. This was one of those upset times.

She crinkled up her nose, pursed her lips and started to cry.

She knows Spencer says things like this just to get her riled up. But she always takes them to heart anyway. Spencer likes to tell her “I don’t like you” to which Skyler responds, “Yes you do. You love me.”

So there we were in the middle of the school cafeteria. Skyler in tears. Spencer looking all smug.

I said, “Skyler you know Spencer just says stuff like that to make you mad. Joseph wouldn’t have walked over here to talk to you if he thought you were annoying, right?”

I think in the mean time Lee was giving Spencer the evil eye so Spencer was giving a very unbelievable “I’m sorry Skyler” speech.

But Skyler realized I was right. Joseph would have just ignored her if he thought she was annoying. [Well no more annoying than any other girl in the 4th grade class. Aren't all girls annoying to boys in the 4th grade?] So she cheered back up and went off to shake her booty.

They’re only 10. We have years and years of these little battles to deal with. I’m going to need much, much more wine.

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