Maybe it’s because I’ve been battling a cold for over a week and I’m extremely irritable, but there is a woman who lives just up the street from me that deserves a good kick in the ass.
This woman is the long-time girlfriend of one of Lee’s childhood friends. We’ve never really had anything in common with them, but we have always been civil. In fact we have often helped them out when they were struggling throughout the years.
I’d tell you all of the things this crazy woman has done over the years, but none of us have that kind of time. It’s a long list of insane behaviour from a grown woman. And a lot of major errors as a parent. In fact, I don’t want her to have any access to my children. Lee occassionally let’s Keaton and Justis go over there to play with her son, but if they ask me I say no. Her son can come here to play, but I don’t want my kids anywhere near her.
She has one son who lives with his father. She claims the father is doing drugs and possibly selling and that he never takes care of their son. According to her, her son plays in the street and has been hit by cars and he shoplifts and it’s all the dad’s fault. However, this deadbeat dad has custody. And he won custody in a state that hardly ever awards custody to fathers. In this state the mother has to be pretty bad for the father to win. I have to believe the courts know a lot more then I do. And that’s scary considering what I know already.
But our story today is about her one child that does live with her. This woman does not have reliable transportation. Nor does she have a driver’s license. I don’t know all the details, but I believe she has been barred by the DOT for multiple drunk drivings and traffic violations. Who knows.
In any event, I guess we live within two miles of the middle school that her son attends. In this school district if you live within two miles of the school, you are not entitled to free busing. Apparently you have to pay some outragoues sum of money to have your kid bussed if you live this close. Our kids are open enrolled in a different school district, so I don’t really know all of the details.
If we are within two miles of her son’s school, then we are probably exactly two miles. His school is across a couple of busy streets and he even has to go on the bridge over the interstate. So it’s a long trek. When it’s nice out he rides his bike, but now that it’s winter she is looking for somebody to take her son to school every day.
Last Friday she called our house at 6:45am. 6:45am! Keaton and Justis are the only one’s up at 6:45am in our house. And they are just barely up at that time. So nobody answered the phone. When Lee got up at 7am he listened to the message. She said the person who usually picks up her son couldn’t do it and would Lee be able to take him to school. [Lee drives right near this boy's school on his way to get our kids to school.]
By some miracle, our kids were ready to go to school by 7:20 that morning so Lee decided to stop by and pick this kid up. This boy’s mother said the boy was upset that Lee showed up because he was excited that he wouldn’t have to go to school since he didn’t have a ride. Can you believe that? She was going to let him stay home because she couldn’t find him a ride. Did she call everybody she knew? Did she check the city bus schedule? Call a taxi? Anything a responsible parent who wants to teacher her child that school is important would do? NO!
His mother then told Lee that the person who normally picks her son up is not very reliable, so would Lee be able to do it every day. She said she’d even pay him gas money. Lee said he can probably do it most days.
Well tomorrow [Monday] our kids don’t have school. It’s an inservice day. So Lee called this woman and told her that he can’t take her son to school tomorrow because our kids don’t have school. [And he's not waking up early to take somebody else's kid to school.] So she said, “Ok” and that she would find somebody else.
A while later her son came down to play with Keaton and Justis. [Her son is the same age as Keaton.] While he was here he asked if he could spend the night. So Keaton and Justis asked Lee. Lee said, “No, tomorrow is a school night for him.” Justis said, “Well his mom told him he can go ahead and miss school tomorrow since he has perfect attendance.”
What?!? How the hell does that make sense? You have perfect attendance so let’s just screw that up and make you miss tomorrow. What kind of lesson is that? You’re reward for going to school every day is that you get a day off. I mean besides the inservice days and holidays and conference days that every other kid already gets off. Oh yeah, and the three months in the summer.
When it was time for dinner this kid went home. He couldn’t of been home more then twenty minutes when he called. Lee answered the phone. This is what I heard from Lee:
No, tomorrow is a school day for you. [Why is that my husband has to tell her kid that tomorrow is a school day for him so he cannot spend the night at a friend's house? Shouldn't that be her job?]
Well that’s not a good enough reason to miss school.
No, you need to go to school
Apparently, this boy was telling Lee about how his mom said he can stay home from school tomorrow. And Lee wasn’t having any of that. Lee said he cannot spend the night and he cannot play over here tomorrow during the school day because he should be in school.
Honestly, what the hell is wrong with her? If they can’t afford the fee for the busing then call the school and discuss it with them. Most schools have free or reduced lunches for people who can’t afford it. My guess is they are willing to work with you on this whole pay for busing thing too, if you ask. I’m sure the school would rather see a child in school every single day and fund the busing themselves rather then risk kids not getting an education because they have no way to school.
And this perfect attendance claim is complete bullshit. Ok, I guess I can’t say for sure that he has perfect attendance, but last Friday she was very willing to just let him not go. And she’s already planned by 2pm today that he wasn’t going tomorrow. She constantly has him at the doctor for one thing or another. A year or two ago he missed more than a month of school because of some illness he had. Perfect attendance my ass.
I hope the truancy officer comes knocking on her door and fines her ass. Then maybe the cash she could of paid a taxi driver wouldn’t look that bad.
She says in the summer her son leaves the house at 6:30 and is at school at 7am. Our school doesn’t even let kids in the door before 8am because they don’t have anybody to supervise the kids. So why would you let your kid get to school an hour and a half before school starts? And if he does get there that early then he has plenty of time to ride the city bus and get to school on time.
Irresponsible parents really piss me off.